A therapist is an outsider who doesn’t have angle about what you should or shouldn’t do in your life. They are not there to judge you, tell you to ‘get over it’ or say things like ‘pull yourself together’. Their job is to listen to you, help you to understand your emotions and come up with strategies that work for you. For an agreed time every week or so the only focus is…you. This is healing. There are some misconceptions about going into therapy. People think that by seeing someone about matters of the mind, you must be crazy…weak or incompetent. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Everyone needs a coach, even Andy Murray. A therapist is a coach trained in psychology. I myself was trained by the late great Dr Petruska Clarkson and one of the things that she said that stayed with me is that once someone decides to go see a therapist…they are more that 50% cured. It takes great courage and trust to share your problems with a so called ‘stranger’. But that’s the beauty of it. The therapist only hears your side of the story. This is every empowering. Therapy is not a passive activity. It is a partnership, it can be hard work, but the results can be liberating. Now I get it there are lots of different types of therapy. It can be a minefield. I also know that therapists get a bad press. There are ‘poor’ therapists out there. This is the case in any profession. You probably had to visit quite a few hairdressers’ until you found a hairdresser that understands your hair. A good hairdresser can make you feel good on the outside. A good therapist can make you feel amazing on the inside. It never ceases to amaze me how people willingly spend money, time and effort on material stuff and will not invest in their own happiness. A peaceful mind is worth more than gold.
The best way to find a therapist is by word of mouth. Recommendasian is an excellent place to start.
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